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I was a superstitious kid.

Doris Day

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…to say there was a right way and a wrong way would have implied that we had a choice.

Can You Be a Half-Assed Perfectionist?

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The cat woke me up this morning 30 minutes before my alarm – like he always does. I followed him down the stairs, fed him, made coffee, then started the shower, mug in hand.  This is our routine. Today feels the same as yesterday.  It’s Groundhog Day. And if you’re like me, the meaning of […]

Groundhog Day

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My friend Millie met a Vietnamese Monk at a retreat in 1988.  She saw him talking to a group of children at the water’s edge and stopped to listen in.   Thay, as the monk asked to be called, was holding a stone and invited the children to do the same. Gently, as was his way, […]

Two Degrees of Separation

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Happy Thanksgiving! I’m so grateful you’re here. Before you come in… Know that I’m not perfect. My house is not perfect, and the dinner certainly won’t be. Please leave your judgement at the door. There are people in here with whom you might have a history. As you enter, kindly let go of the expectation […]

The Doorbell Rings…

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This morning I was drying my hair and thinking about the day ahead. I don’t know about you, but the whole shower sequence is an idea incubator for me. So, I’m blowing out my hair, thinking about a free talk that I’m giving next week with Dana Hilmer – ideas were firing so quickly that […]

Hop Off The Train

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What I uncovered in my closet is a symptom of how often the old patterns that run under our radar lead to choices that keep us from growing.

11 Pairs of Black Pants

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A natural contrarian, my grandfather’s default answer to anything was some version of NO.

It’s easier to just say yes.

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I beg to differ.

hot as hell

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Do you know what a catbird is? It’s a greyish bird, medium in size, with an absolutely horrible squawk of a call. I know this because one made a nest in my arborvitae hedge. Our two fat old cats hang out in the yard, chase the occasional mouse, and absolutely freak that catbird out. I […]

The caterwauling starts at 4am

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