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I passed the same woman in three different aisles yesterday at The Fresh Market. Each time I, I heard her making the same sound: “ugghkk.” As luck would have it, she pulled up behind me in the check out, muttering to herself as she looked around the store and waited her turn. I couldn’t quite […]

David Sedaris once shared that his editor called the title of his collection of essays, Let’s Explore Diabetes with Owls, “willfully obtuse.”

This election has been difficult – on our country and on our relationships. It’s a natural instinct shut down those that don’t agree with us. Unfortunately, we can never heal or grow from that place. But it this is a time for boundaries. Understanding what yours are is the starting point to enforcing them, and to moving forward.

This morning, an Instagram ad for a Halloween T-shirt caught my eye. (When did Halloween get so gory, anyway?) Something else about it grabbed me, though. If you’ve ever worked with a coach, chances are the person you started as is somewhat different than the one you grew into. It’s also likely that the first […]

I was eleven when my (great) Uncle Henry died.  He was a smallish guy with a Brooklyn accent who always had his hands in his pockets and a scratch sheet folded under his arm. He said everything with a smile and a shrug and always repeated the end of the sentence a couple of times. […]

Paul and I were at Five Guys, eating the free peanuts while waiting for our burgers to come up. The place was pretty empty which you’d think would make things quicker, but with only two people working, the folks ahead of us were still waiting for their food by the time we got to our […]

… and one you’re not. First there were bucket lists, then there were f#*k-it lists, now it seems that everyone I come across has some sort of self-improvement list that if completed AND upheld, will make their lives significantly better. Or so they think. Each day, I open my zoom room at 8 am and, […]

There was this episode of Friends… I barely remember any of it – except that a tangential character challenged Monica by saying, “it’s just a cookie, Monica, it’s not love.” I was honestly struck by the idea that the things we do in excess are often directly related to our own sense of enoughness. In […]

There are a number of changes occurring in my life right now. Some, I’ve sought out; others have been knocking – harder and harder – at my door. Maybe you’ve experienced that too? The knocking is quiet at first. Often, it’s just an uneasy feeling somewhere in the body when certain subjects or circumstances present […]

I was at an event last night where three different women took to the stage to tell us that when they reframed the way they saw themselves, they radically changed their lives. If you’ve worked on yourself at all, you recognize the importance of what you tell yourself (and as a result, the rest of […]