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“How do you feel about Bob Newhart,” he asked. It was an out of the blue (and seemingly out of context) question given the circumstances. “Love him,” I said. “Who doesn’t?” I was in my 40s and completing my first certification program in coaching. Gary (we’ll call him Gary) was assigned to be my coach […]

… and one you’re not. First there were bucket lists, then there were f#*k-it lists, now it seems that everyone I come across has some sort of self-improvement list that if completed AND upheld, will make their lives significantly better. Or so they think. Each day, I open my zoom room at 8 am and, […]

There was this episode of Friends… I barely remember any of it – except that a tangential character challenged Monica by saying, “it’s just a cookie, Monica, it’s not love.” I was honestly struck by the idea that the things we do in excess are often directly related to our own sense of enoughness. In […]

There are a number of changes occurring in my life right now. Some, I’ve sought out; others have been knocking – harder and harder – at my door. Maybe you’ve experienced that too? The knocking is quiet at first. Often, it’s just an uneasy feeling somewhere in the body when certain subjects or circumstances present […]

I was at an event last night where three different women took to the stage to tell us that when they reframed the way they saw themselves, they radically changed their lives. If you’ve worked on yourself at all, you recognize the importance of what you tell yourself (and as a result, the rest of […]

Are you more confident than you were when you were younger?Are you less? If you answered YES to both you’re not alone. There are, in fact, very legitimate reasons for “feeling more confident and comfortable in (your) own skin” one minute, and wondering “what happened to my confidence – why am I constantly getting in […]

It happened to me in a neighborhood grocery store. Sunday morning we were sipping our coffee and Paul mentioned a free jazz brunch at Elm City Market. I could tell he wanted to go. Naturally, I already had a list in my head of all the things I’d be ticking off that day, but remembering […]

Sometimes my yoga teacher (the amazing Sigrid Olsen) will, in the middle of a pose, remind us to “smile for no reason.” I do. And I’m instantly a tiny bit happier – sometimes even a tiny bit giddy. If you’ve been reading this newsletter for a while, you’ll know that I’m a fan of smiling […]

I’ve always been a hopeful person.

It turns out I was misinformed.