THE DOS AND DON’T OF HABITS

We try to rush things, don’t we?

“I want to lose 25 pounds by Christmas.”
“I’m going to double my income this year.”
“I’m going to finally meet the RIGHT guy.”

I get it. You’re sick of being fat or poor or lonely or whatever it is that keeps you up at night.

You want to fix it and you want to fix it fast.

I get that you’re frustrated because you’ve been here for way longer that you wanted to already.

SLOW DOWN you’re not going to fix this overnight.

I know what you’re thinking….

IT’S NOT OVERNIGHT, I’VE BEEN TRYING FOREVER!!!!

It’s okay. 
It will work.
Whatever it is, you can absolutely do it.

But first, you’ll need to let go of the I NEED IT NOW timeline.

Trust me.

If I told you right now, you’ll have what you want but it will take 18 months, or three years, or more to achieve it, you’d probably groan.  You may even refuse the offer and think, “NO! I can do it faster…I have to do it faster.”

Let me challenge you to look back 18 months, or three years or more…my guess is you were in the same place with this goal that you are right now. 

And if you had said yes to slow and steady then, you would have what you want today.

Humans are complex.  Your beliefs, your emotions, your behaviors and your environment form an intricate web that creates all your outcomes.

When what you want requires a pattern shift in more than one of those areas, it’s going to take some time. You’re going to need to go slow. 

You’re going to need to build a new web.

Don’t get give up.

Building that web in tiny increments is easy – it’s scalable – and you’ll have a continuous string of successes to celebrate, starting almost immediately.

This Week:  Tiny is the Road to BIG, and Slow & Steady Wins the Race.

Practice these 5 Dos and Don’ts from my favorite habit guru, James Clear. 

DON’T try to change everything at once.

DO pick one thing to tackle at a time.

DON’T start with a habit that’s too big.

DO create tiny, incremental habits that are “so easy, you can’t say no.”

DON’T focus on the result.

DO focus on the ritual (or behavior).

DON’T assume that you can will yourself to change in a sabotaging environment.

DO build an environment that promotes good habits.

DON’T fear that small changes won’t add up.

DO get one percent better each day.

Slow and steady my friends – you’ve got this.